In all relationships, sex can get a bit stale at times. Because of the pressures of family life, work and other things, if you are not careful, it's easy to get into the habit of using the same sexual positions, doing the same foreplay routine, and then rolling over and going to sleep!

So, here are a few things you might like to try occasionally to spice up your sex life.

1. Have sex with clothes on

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Do you always take all your clothes off for sex? Why? Why not try some quickie sex in the kitchen, lounge or a room other than the bedroom. It's surprising how few clothes you have to take off to allow access.

Why not just hitch up a skirt and remove your knickers? Men, why not just drop your trousers and boxers. In fact, women, depending on what type of underwear you are wearing, he could pull the material to the side and still enter you. It can be very erotic!

And when you do go in for slow, sensual sex in the bedroom, again, there's no need to take everything off. Women, leaving on a sexy camisole top, allowing the sheer luxury between your two bodies can be very pleasurable. Why not leave your suspender belt and stockings on? Men can get highly aroused by lingerie and you'll feel sexier too. If you have any concerns about your own body image, wearing a nice piece of lingerie can really help.

2. Vary the depth

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It's very easy for men simply to thrust the same way every time, but if you vary the way you thrust, it can make a huge difference.

The first two or three inches inside the vagina is where the nerve ending are, so it really doesn't matter how big your penis is. As they say, it's what you do with it that counts.

So men, when you first enter you partner, don't just thrust straight in.

Tease her first. Rub the tip up and down her vagina lips and clitoris in expectation and then, slowly, just let it open her up. Perhaps withdraw and repeat the tease, and then enter her. This slow method can also help her own lubrication and relax the vagina muscle to take you in. Then, when you know she is ready, deep thrust and then hold it so that the vagina walls get time to adapt. You can then try a whole range of things.

Why not go for several short but quick thrusts to stimulate her vagina nerves, followed by one or two deeper thrusts. Or, withdraw almost completely and then go deep as she grasps her ankles around you backside and pulls you in.

You may also like to try circular thrusting. Simple in and out only stimulate some of the vagina nerve endings, but if you can learn to circulate your hips as you thrust, your public bone will also stimulate her clitoris, the most sensitive part of her, and will help her orgasm.

Positioning is also important. To aid thrusting, some women find putting a pillow under their bottom helps deeper thrusting. Some find wrapping their legs around their husbands back or bottom helps, whilst others will hook the back of their knees over his shoulders to allow really deep penetration.

And depending on how double jointed you are, ladies, if you can manage to lay on your back and hook your ankles behind your head, you'd be amazed what levels of penetration can be achieved. Try it, even for a laugh!